When i was studing to become a nurse and now some 20 years later is still ask my patients: “How are you doing?”. One day a young woman replied “I’m killin’ it !!”. “Killin’ it?” I echoed. “Yeah—I’m killin’ it, because otherwise, it’s killin’ me,” the woman replied. This exchange set the tone for my nurse-patient relationship for the next few days. Even as Icould see the side effects of chemo setting in, this woman kept up their inside joke, feeding an easy sense of trust between us.